Question: Dear Abby on inviting out-of-towners to receiption dinner?
Was reading old Dear Abby columns and found this:

DEAR MIFFED: The etiquette experts are not in complete agreement about whether out-of-town guests “must” be included in the rehearsal dinner.
According to the “Modern Bride Complete Wedding Planner” by Cele Goldsmith Lalli and Stephanie H. Dahl: “The rehearsal dinner may be as formal or as informal as you and the hosts like, and will include all members of the wedding party and their spouses, as well as the clergy, parents and grandparents. OUT-OF-TOWN WEDDING GUESTS SHOULD ALSO BE INVITED.” (Emphasis is mine.)
“McCall’s Engagement and Wedding Guide” advises: “The rehearsal dinner is likely to be a sizable undertaking. All attendants are always invited; it is also polite to include the husband or wife of a married attendant and to ask the fiance of an engaged attendant.
The parents of the ring bearer and flower girls are invited, though they will usually leave these very young attendants with a baby sitter unless the hostess has made special provision for them. If the clergyperson is a family friend or from out of town, he or she is included, as is the spouse. Otherwise, the clergyperson is not invited to this gathering. Special out-of-town relatives MAY also be invited.” (Emphasis is mine.)
According to “Emily Post’s Complete Book of Wedding Etiquette,” it is permissible to exclude out-of-towners at the rehearsal dinner, especially when the wedding party is large and other parties have been planned for those visitors.

Under no circumstances should you entertain more guests at the rehearsal dinner than you can comfortably afford. To help defray the cost, an alternative solution might be for some of the bride and groom’s friends to host an informal gathering for the out-of-town guests
It is not a question. Just Abby’s take on a very common question here. As was noted: even the experts don’t agree. So go with what you want and can afford.

Answer:

Answer by Neenie
eff that

I’m inviting people actually involved in the ceremony. My dad is footing this as my fiancee’s family just simply can’t afford it. Thus, I am not taking advantage and inviting the who damn tribe. It’ll turn into two receptions.