Currently viewing the tag: "Getting"
I’m good! What about u! I left out Sooooo much but it is what it is… NEXT
Question: Should I be mad that my cuz is getting married & I will be the ONLY girl in a matching BM dress not up ther?
She is getting Married in july and when she first got engaged she told me that I was going to be one of her bridesmaids!
We have been close since we where little (she is 18, I am 19)
About a week or two before we where suppose to all go shopping for dresses she asked me to be her wedding planner (Im in college to be a wedding planner) and of course I was excited but as she explained she said she wanted me to be an important person and skirted around saying I was no longer a bridesmaid….she basically de-maided me
We when to Davids Bridal to get dresses-
Her maid of honor is her sister and her only other bridesmaid is her friend. The flower girl and ring bearer are her sisters best friend (her friend) and that girls little sister who has only been friends with my cousin for about a year or more.
We all got dresses that where the same colors but different styles.
I have a dress that is the same color as the others so I will look like im in the wedding but I wont walk down the aisle or stand up there or anything and its not like im going to wear a name tag saying “wedding planner” especially since im not a professional yet.
So Ill be in the bridal party but not in the wedding…Am i even in pictures?
Should I be upset?
Please help!
Answer:
Answer by Soon to be bride
That is so messed up. I’d confront her and tell the bride that she better give you the money for the dress you bought. It’s not your fault she decided to change her mind after the fact. And then I would give her the dress to use however she wanted.
Go in a dress you like. And don’t worry about what she’s doing for pictures and such. If she wants you in a picture, then she’ll make it happen. Otherwise I wouldn’t worry about it. I would also reconsider your relationship with your cousin. I know family is supposed to be close and not f*ck you over, but it happens a lot more than you’d think.
Good luck!
Question: My wedding, and my mother, are getting out of control!?!?
I am generally a pretty straight-forward, speak my mind kind of person, but I seem to be getting run over from all sides when it comes to my wedding. The wedding is a month away in Clearwater, FL. About 45 people are coming, mostly family, with a few friends. For the last 7 months, I have been planning the wedding day and all of that is pretty much done except for the last calls with the vendors. As we get closer though, my mother keeps throwing in more things to plan. “What about the night before?” “What about the night everyone arrives?” “What about the night after?” I want everyone to have a good time, but I don’t think we have to plan an activity for every second that people are there, it is at a beach, there are plenty of things for people to do. Additionally, we don’t have the money to fund things, and my mother wants to host them, but she doesn’t want to pay for them. My fiance and I finally broke down and paid for a wine tasting the night before…continued…
but we can’t afford to pay for everything else too! My parents have very generously paid for the wedding, so I don’t want to ask them for more. I can’t seem to convince her to stop trying to plan every second and it has literally brought me to tears a few times. The longer it goes, the more she thinks of, and I’m afraid I’m going to lose my mind and throw her in the ocean! Just kidding of course! Any advice?
My fiance is no help. He just tells me not to get upset, but he won’t offer to help plan or anything to take the pressure off. He won’t even plan the parts he is SUPPOSED to plan, which is making me nuts too.
There are only two people in the wedding party with us, so we aren’t having a formal rehearsal, therefore no rehearsal dinner. We can’t afford to pay for one and the wine tasting was all we could afford to pacify my mother who wanted to ask people to pay for themselves. The groom’s family has not offered to pay for anything.
Answer:
Answer by D4Pres2012
set a precedent with this wedding and with your family, that you will not be pushed around and that your wishes will be observed. it sounds like a small informal wedding and if your mom has a problem with that, and wants a bunch of other formalized activities, tell her she is free to plan and pay for whatever she wants, and she can just tell you what time to show up. it’s your wedding, furthermore you’re the bride, so people should be treating you, not you shelling out for every single thing. it should be worry free and expense free for the bride and groom.
Question: Getting married in Thailand?
My boyfriend and I have been doing a great deal of talking about getting married in Southeast Asia. We want to get married in a remote location, hopefully in the mountiains. The problem that we have run into, however, is that all of the websites regarding “eloping” in Thailand or any other country for that matter basically play up the “destination wedding” …where you fly out your entire family and have a big white wedding on the beach and have your reception and honeymoon in a resort. That is the exact opposite of what we want. We would like a quiet, private ceremony for just the two of us….no parties or fancy dresses or champagne toasts. We are both experienced hikers and backpackers so we have no reservations about going into the forest or up into the mountains to get to a quiet place to be married. We both work for an airline so getting into Thailand isn’t going to be a problem. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to plan this without having to go to a “wedding planner” at some hotel?
Answer:
Answer by Negeshia
I assume your American but the procedures is the same for other countries.
Appear in person with your passports at your Embassy in Thailand to complete declarations attesting that you are single and free to marry in accordance with Thai Law (blank forms are available at the Embassy $ 50).
1. Take the completed declaration to a reputable translation office to have the contents of the declaration translated into Thai (300 Baht per page).
2. The documents together with translation and copies of passports have to be taken to the Legalization Division of Consular Affairs Department (address: 123 Chaengwattana Road, Laksi, Bangkok 10210 Tel: (66-2) 575-1056-60 Fax: 575-1054 E-mail: consular04@mfa.go.th ) where the Consular Official’s signature will be authenticated. This normally takes 2 days. (I forget the price. maybe 1800 baht you can pay to have it expedited (400 baht).
In case of the woman is a widow or a divorcee, the dissolution of the former marriage must have taken place at least 310 days before the next marriage
Doctor’s pregnancy test is accepted if the time between the former marriage and the next marriage is less than 310 days; but this rule shall not apply if;
1. a child has been born during such period, or
2. the divorced couple remarry, or
3. there is an order of the Court allowing the woman to marry.
Once approved you just need to go to a District Registrar (There are hundreds of them just ask near where you wnat to get married or in Bangkok) with copies of all documents in Thai and have your marriage registered. (500 baht?). They give you two certificates for framing.
Monks do not perform marriage ceremonies. Your ceremony is up to you. Hire a hiking guide up in Chaing Mai and maybe he’ll say a few words in Thai. Many Thais have been monks for a short time.
Question: Should I be upset about not getting asked to be a bridesmaid?
Ok, please don’t send me a bunch of responses about how it’s my friend’s wedding, so I should just accept her choice, etc. I get that already. It’s not so much the not getting asked part that I mind, but rather, the circumstances surrounding it.
I’ve been friends with this girl for years, and I thought we were really close. She even introduces me to people as her “sister” and rang me straight after her fiance proposed. I have always gone by the philosophy that you don’t assume you’re a bridesmaid unless you have been asked, and I knew there was a chance she would only have 2 – her sister, and another friend she also introduces as her sister, but I do honestly feel I was led to believe that she was going to have 3, and that I would be asked. She made it really clear that she wanted me involved in organising the wedding, and we even planned to go to a bridal expo as a group.
I think the first blow was HOW I found out I wasn’t being asked. I was with the bride-to-be and her other close friend, and we ran into a mutual friend. We mentioned we were organising stuff for the wedding, and the mutual friend asked the bride-to-be if we were the bridesmaids to which the response was that the other girl was a bridesmaid, and I was the “wedding planner.” I felt so crushed, but I had to act casual and not show how hurt I was.
Things got worse when I found out that there WILL be 3 bridesmaids. That wasn’t what upset me. The thing was, the other girl who was asked hates the idea of marriage – she didn’t even congratulate the bride-to-be when she became engaged, because she saw it as being anti-feminist. She refuses to get involved in helping organise anything for the wedding, and is completely negative whenever the bride-to-be asks her opinion, eg about what style/colour bridesmaid dress she’d like to wear. I don’t understand why she’d even agree to be bridesmaid if that’s her attitude. She acts like she’s begrudgingly doing the bride some huge favour, rather than acting like she’s been given a huge honour.
The last thing that upset me is that after I found all this out, my friend wanted to talk, and told me she hoped I wasn’t upset. She was really apologetic, and said she only asked the other girl because she knew she’d “never have forgiven her” if she hadn’t been asked. She told me she still wanted me involved in the wedding and that I’d be there front-and-centre and not miss anything on the day. Of course, I tried not to let her know how hurt I was, and told her not to worry, that it was her choice, etc, and she kept saying she wanted me to know how important Iam to her. I really appreciate that she took the time to talk to be about it, but somehow what she said only made me feel worse.
So my questions are:
-Do I have the right to be upset?
-Should I have told my friend how I really feel?
Also, my friend kept saying how she still wants me involved, but I now feel like I’m intruding, since I’m not a bridesmaid, and I know that helping her plan her wedding is going to really hurt knowing that on her big day I won’t be able to help her get ready, etc, but I still want to be there for her if she wants me. What should I do?
Also, I get that customarily, you don’t make a point of telling people they’re NOT a bridesmaid, but I wish I’d found out a better way. If the tables had been turned, I would have at least mentioned in conversation that I’d asked such-and-such to be my bridesmaids, so people knew, rather than leaving them hanging…
Answer:
Answer by cestlavie44
I would be hurt also. Is there some reason why you can’t be a bridesmaid AND help with the planning? Does she have a maid of honor? Maid of honor is usually the one to plan and be an assistant to the bride. Her sister should be maid of honor and her maids should be you and the other two. I really think you MUST tell her your feelings. If you don’t your friendship may have problems later. As for the 3rd bridesmaid. It doesn’t sound like she made a very good choice and probably regrets it but now it’s too late. You are in a bad spot but I still think it’s important to tell her exactly what you said here.
Subscribe to be notified of new tutorials! www.youtube.com This is the first episode of my “Wedding Story” series. Here we are at the Seattle Wedding Show looking at vendors and getting help planning our wedding. It’s so fun. Wedding Planners, Flowers, Venues, Limos, Cakes…. everything Wedding Related! Check out the Website and Video of the “Seattle Wedding Show” www.weddingshow.com www.youtube.com To See my Wedding Planners Site “From the Gown Up” and if you need one in Western Washington…. Click Below fromthegownup.com Facebook me your video request www.facebook.com Twitter me www.twitter.com Blog www.itsjudytime.blogspot.com Personal youtube http Proposal video www.youtube.com Engagement Talk www.youtube.com Music featuring Artists: Theory Hazit illect.bandcamp.com www.myspace.com Scribbling Idiots www.cdbaby.com Appears courtesy Illect Recordings www.illect.com